Your problem sounds quite debilitating. I have included most of an article for your information. The reference for the article is listed at the end.
Please read through this and consider my suggestions at the very end of this response.
Glue ear (secretory otitis media)
Glue ear is a condition in which fluid builds up behind the eardrum. It can interfere with hearing, although this is often temporary. Many cases get better without any treatment.
To work properly, the middle ear (the part of the ear concerned with hearing) needs to be full of air. The Eustachian tubes connect each ear with the back of the throat and when they open they allow air to move into the middle ear.
It is not unusual for people to develop colds and ear infections that result in their Eustachian tubes becoming infected. When this occurs the walls of the Eustachian tubes may stick together so the air in the middle ear cannot circulate. Mucus may then be produced, which can fill the middle ear cavity.
The most common problem is hearing loss. Sometimes the hearing loss is mild, lasts only a few weeks and gets better by itself but it may go on for many months.
About half of all bouts of glue ear will get better spontaneously within three months, so doctors are often reluctant to use any form of treatment unless the glue ear goes on for longer than this.
Antibiotics appear to help in the short term but do not prevent glue ear from recurring. In the long term they do not appear to improve the outcome for glue ear. Many doctors now prefer not to prescribe antibiotics unless absolutely necessary.
Autoinflation is a technique for trying to keep the Eustachian tubes working properly. A device called the Otovent (a plastic tube which can be attached to a small balloon) can make the Eustachian tubes open and by doing so may help to clear up glue ear.
Sometimes surgery is necessary. A small cut is made in the eardrum and the 'glue' is drained out. A tiny tube called a grommet is placed in the hole to help keep air circulating in the middle ear and stop the 'glue' building up again. However, about half of those treated with grommets will need to have them reinserted within five years of the initial operation.
Otitis media with effusion : Clinical Evidence, Dr. Gillian Rice, GP, BMJ Publishing Group, Issue 3, pages 248-254.
I have found that vitamin C complex with bioflavonoids are quite helpful with any type of congestion of the sinuses or ears. Adequate daily intake of pure water is also essential. Enzyme therapy can also prove quite beneficial.
To find the name and number of the nearest Enzyme Therapy Associate to you call 800-614-4400.
Best of Health,